Welcome to the wedding blog for Megan & Tommy!

Monday, February 16, 2009

Women and Weddings

What is it about weddings that make the majority of girls selfish and kind of stupid? I mean come on! I understand that a lot of women have dreamed about this day "all their life", and want it to be perfect, blah blah blah. But, if it weren't for the groom-to-be THERE WOULD BE NO WEDDING. A wedding ISN'T ALL ABOUT YOU, the bride, It's about the COUPLE vowing to spend their life together. So why is it that so many women say "MY wedding", "I want this", "I told him no" when it comes to something he wants that YOU don't. Is he your fiancé or your child? Yes yes, I know generally it's the girl involved with all of the planning. Yes yes, I know generally he doesn't care about the planning and only want to know when to show up. Yes yes, I know generally he could care less about every single minor detail. But your little "it's all about me", princess like attitude has got to go. There are more important things than the perfect party, such as YOUR MARRIAGE. And yes, it is a party whether or not you want to admit it.

I personally feel that the way the bride or even the groom acts during the wedding planning process is a very accurate glimpse of what is to come after the honeymoon is over. Occasional little breakdowns are normal because as we all know wedding planning is in fact extremely stressful! But if you're a bridezilla the entire time and its all about what YOU want, uh hmmmm, RED FLAG!!

I know for me and Tommy I'm the one in charge of planning this wedding because lets face it, he's a typical guy and doesn't care what color napkins we have or if the flowers match with the bridesmaids dresses. But despite all of that, I never make a final decision without his input first. Why? Because this is his wedding too and I want him to also be completely happy with how OUR day turns out. Who knows, he may actually have a preference but doesn't want to "interferer" thinking that a day that's supposed to be about both of us is in fact "my day". Which it's not and I've made sure to never considered it that.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Taking his name

I always figured that when or if I were to get married I would be taking my husband's name. I didn't even think twice about it. But now that the time is so close, I kind of feel bad for "getting rid" of my maiden name. I still want Tommy's name but I also want my name. I realize I could always hyphenate it but that would just make my name longer (even though our names really aren't that long to begin with) and be an issue when we have kids. Plus, I don't want to insult Tommy because I really do want his name. I thought I already made the decision to just have the one name but for whatever reason I keep going back to it. Plus, if I have both I like the variety of the cultures in my entire name, Megan Michiko Ortiz-Puig. I want people to see my name and think "What the heck is she?" It's just my weirdness coming out I guess.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

We can get through anything

I was thinking about relationships and how couples break up over anything, especially when theres no "good" reason. A couple weekends ago I found out that when my grandfather was dying (years before I was born. He was my dad's dad) he was afraid of my grandmother leaving him because he was sick. Apparently when a family member of his was sick/dying his wife left him because she couldn't deal with it. So as my grandfather laid on his death bed, he kept telling my grandmother "don't leave me. don't leave me. don't leave me."

Even though I never knew him, thinking about him that way, in his most vulnerable time, made me really sad. Sad not only for him having to worry about his wife leaving him when he needed her most, but sad for anyone that has had to deal with that. That one person is supposed to be there by your side through anything. It's so important that it's actually in the vows people make to one another when they get married. The person you claim to love shouldn't have to worry about you leaving them, especially in their time of need.

So I started thinking about me and Tommy. Even though we've only been together for a few years, we have had to deal with A LOT. More than anyone could ever know, and more than we should have to deal with so early on. We have been going through one bad thing after another non stop for who knows how long. It does take its toll, make our emotions run high, and cause a lot of stress. A lot of the things we have had to deal with in our few years together would have been the end to most relationships today. Despite everything we have had to deal with and are dealing with right now, the thought of leaving never crossed our minds. And even though dating isn't the same as marriage, we both know that we can get through anything because we have been at our darkest point and overcame it.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Photo Hosting Site

I decided to look for a photo hosting website to add all of mine and Tommy's photos, mainly wedding related, so we could share them with friends and family. I have about 50 million different hosting accounts (obvious over exaggeration) but wanted something "better". So I came across a list of the "9 best hosting sites" and #1 was www.dotphoto.com so I made an account. I'm not sure how many sites offer this feature but I thought it was pretty cool. We're able to make our own "website" and show whatever albumbs we choose.

Once the wedding is over we're going to ask all of our guests to go to our photo hosting site and upload whatever pictures they have from our wedding so we can add them to our collection and share them with everyone else.

Our site is up for viewing so everyone can see our Engagement, Wedding Weekend, Wedding, Trash the Dress, Honeymoon, and Project Blended photos all on one site.

Here's the web address: http://OrtizPuig.dotphoto.com

Thursday, February 5, 2009

"But you're so young"

Seriously? I'm sorry but I can't stand it when people tell me that when they find out I'm engaged. Everyone is entitled to their personal opinions but it still annoys me beyond belief. I don't know what people expect us to wait for. Lets see, we're going on 5 years this August. We waited 5 YEARS to get married. We didn't jump into marriage like so many others do even though from the very beginning we KNEW we would one day get married. We have been together our ENTIRE "adult life", so no "puppy love" that most teeny boppers are known to have. We'll be 23 when the big day arrives, older than most people we know who have been married in the past few years or are getting married soon. And to top it off, we have known each other FOREVER! Why is there a need for us to wait any longer? If you're not ready to get married thats fine but DO NOT tell us we aren't or are too young.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Can I marry this person?

I was reading something a former classmate said about relationships today, "I wish more couples would think before they get into relationships. Dating is one thing but please don't waste your time if you don't see yourself with that person 1 year, 5 years, 10 years down the line. Honestly think hard, where will it be 1 year from now? Good.. great. What about 5? Is it getting ugly, do you see yourself trying to keep it together for the sake of being together for 5 years. 10 year rolls around... think about it. You get my picture." His personal opinion got me thinking about us at the very beginning of our relationship.

From DAY 1, Tommy and I both thought (to ourselves) there was a very good possibility that our relationship was going to work out. We had the same interests, same beliefs, basically grew up the same way, had the same wants in life, and were really good friends (best to be exact), so the odds seemed to be in our favor. We were able to see ourselves years down the road, still together. Marriage was even on our minds from the very start. We weren't going to waste our time with someone we couldn't see ourselves with in the future, being married to.

We were both taught that relationships weren't something to take lightly. They aren't something you get into just for recreational purposes. So because of what we were taught, our OWN personal beliefs, and logical reasons, that statement above makes perfect sense.

I know for me personally, I knew Tommy was THE ONE (for sure) when I saw myself 10, 20, 30 years into the future with him. I occasionally thought about what types of things I would like to accomplish or do with my life. Marriage was something I would have liked to do (but not a priority), have kids, travel, buy a house, etc. Material, recreational, and spiritual things included. All of which I saw someone with me, but it was never clear who it was. Just another figure by my side. Once Tommy was in the picture, that other person became crystal clear. It was Tommy who was by my side for everything I experienced in my life, or hoped to experienced.

And now that we've been together for 4 1/2 years, its even clearer that this is for the long run. The amount of time we've been together may not seem like that long, and we'll have our ups and downs, but we've never doubted that this is what we truly want. It still feels like we've only been together for a couple months and far from being tired with one another. Just spending time together makes us completely happy. We can both truthfully say that this has been the happiest we have ever been

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Couple's survey

1. What are your first names?
Tommy and Megan

2. How long have you been together?
4 1/2 years, 5 in August! :D

3. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Technically since we were 6, but our families knew each other YEARS before we were even born so we just say forever!

4. Who asked who out?
Tommy asked me out

5. How old are each of you?
We're both 22 (6 days apart), almost 23. Got together at 18. Been together our entire "adult" life :)

6. What are your astrological signs?
Gemini, even though we don't follow that kind of thing

7. How tall are each of you?
We're short. Lets just leave it at that, haha

8. Who's mother do you see the most?
Well he sees his more, and I see mine more. But we see each other's pretty often

9. Who’s siblings do you see the most?
Considering I have none? We see his, which isn't that often

10. Do you have any children together?
Not yet :)

11. What about pets?

12. If so, what kind?
A kitten named Mochi

13. Which bill is the hardest on you as a couple?
Uhhh. They're all about even

14. How do each of you work?
Tommy is an Auto Decor Specialist, and I'm a Massage Therapist

15. Is that what you went to school for?
Tommy, no. Me, yes

16. Did you go to the same school?
Nope, never

17. Are you from the same hometown?

18. are you from the same town now?
No, but we're close

19. Who is the smartest?
I think we're even. But we do have our "expertise" in different areas. But we're both horrible at math

20. Who is the most sensitive?
I'll go with me since I'm the chick

21. Where do you eat out at most as a couple?
No one place really. It's all over

22. Where do you shop the most as a couple?
We don't. I hate shopping and he's a guy

23. Where is the furthest you have traveled as a couple?
Vegas, it was with my mom and his family though

24. Who has the best group of friends?
We have the same group of friends

25. Who has the craziest exes?

26. Who has the worst temper?
He does! hehe, but I have a temper too

La la la

I wanna be married already!

Nuff said :P

Well I doooooo. It's ok, Tommy's worth the wait :)